Pregnancy and marriage

So I thought long about this, I am going to change the blog title. Some will get it, some will not.

So you know What Really Grinds My Gears...
the fact that almost everyone I went to school with or is around my age group, is either married, getting married or pregnant or already have kids.
If you are younger then 25, don't have a job, didn't finish high school or start college, you DO NOT NEED KIDS or TO BE MARRIED!!
kids hold you back, they get in the way and they take time and effort to have. They are great to have when YOU ARE READY to make a family... not just because you feel that you are a good mother and think you need some just to have a reason in life or to stay with your boyfriend. If that;s what it takes to feel alive then just take this knife and end cause that is not the answer. If you boyfriend doesn't want to stay with you and that is the only reason he would, then you don't need him in your life.
Kids are something that take time, money and patience; and you are automatically someone they will look up to when they are older. So, if you in high school and you get pregnant, GET RID OF IT! Abortion or adaption, there are people out there that will adopt because they cannot have kids of their own.
There are just too many kids being born that shouldn't be. Pretty soon we will be like China, and we cant handle that as a country. Since there are more and more people here, more and more cars are driven causing more and more pollution, more and more gas used, just so many effects by it.
But that is not the only reason. Why must you feel that it deems necessary to have a kid or get married when you aren't ready?
Think of this...
you are in high school, trying to finish it so you can move on in life and make something of yourself. You meet someone you like maybe even love, that is great. But, don't get to this point. You love them so that you think you need nothing else. You end up ditching school because you want to spend more time with that person, you then don't graduate, then you don't get a good job, then you cant support yourself and then you end up having a kid; two kids; you cant do anything with your friends whom are your age because you have to either work or take care the kids.

I blame MTV; they have shows about teenage moms that get pregnant and they show their lives. So they are basically saying, hey if you have a kid at 16, you get a tv show, so what do they do then, get pregnant.
I am not saying this is the only things that promotes it, but it is part of the problem. It is the fact the kids think that they should have sex at an early age now. I met two 13 year old who said they had been together for a year. Seriously??!!
then you have kids age 18, 19 or even 20 who think it is time to get married. NO!!!
yes it is OK to date, but you don't make that decision until you are settled in life, until YOU know who YOU are.
You can learn about someone in less then a year, but it takes your entire life to know yourself.
So a person you date now is someone who is different when you marry.

So this is my final thought...
take time to get to know you, date someone but don't make it all your life just yet. Finish school, go to college, see where YOUR life goes and see if your life will mesh with the others future also. If it doesn't, continue your life and until you find someone who fits in that void. Don't just try and fit a puzzle piece in a spot and smash it in till it fits. Cause all it does then is make the picture incomplete and mixed.
Same goes with kids. Wait till you are ready and not just when you think you are ready. They are two different things. So make a good example for when you do end up having them. Finish school do your life, then work on starting your children life by showing them how to do it right so they have a good life. Instead of showing them that it is OK to not go to school just because you thought you loved someone.

Now this does not go for everyone, there are few couples who are ready to marry, who are ready to have kids. And if you are then that is awesome, but just be sure you are though.






(I know this blog will upset a few people who read it. Just keep in mind that I take real life situations and tell the real life solutions. Do not take it that I am attacking any of you in particular.)