So I thought long about this, I am going to change the blog title. Some will get it, some will not.
So you know What Really Grinds My Gears...
the fact that almost everyone I went to school with or is around my age group, is either married, getting married or pregnant or already have kids.
If you are younger then 25, don't have a job, didn't finish high school or start college, you DO NOT NEED KIDS or TO BE MARRIED!!
kids hold you back, they get in the way and they take time and effort to have. They are great to have when YOU ARE READY to make a family... not just because you feel that you are a good mother and think you need some just to have a reason in life or to stay with your boyfriend. If that;s what it takes to feel alive then just take this knife and end cause that is not the answer. If you boyfriend doesn't want to stay with you and that is the only reason he would, then you don't need him in your life.
Kids are something that take time, money and patience; and you are automatically someone they will look up to when they are older. So, if you in high school and you get pregnant, GET RID OF IT! Abortion or adaption, there are people out there that will adopt because they cannot have kids of their own.
There are just too many kids being born that shouldn't be. Pretty soon we will be like China, and we cant handle that as a country. Since there are more and more people here, more and more cars are driven causing more and more pollution, more and more gas used, just so many effects by it.
But that is not the only reason. Why must you feel that it deems necessary to have a kid or get married when you aren't ready?
Think of this...
you are in high school, trying to finish it so you can move on in life and make something of yourself. You meet someone you like maybe even love, that is great. But, don't get to this point. You love them so that you think you need nothing else. You end up ditching school because you want to spend more time with that person, you then don't graduate, then you don't get a good job, then you cant support yourself and then you end up having a kid; two kids; you cant do anything with your friends whom are your age because you have to either work or take care the kids.
I blame MTV; they have shows about teenage moms that get pregnant and they show their lives. So they are basically saying, hey if you have a kid at 16, you get a tv show, so what do they do then, get pregnant.
I am not saying this is the only things that promotes it, but it is part of the problem. It is the fact the kids think that they should have sex at an early age now. I met two 13 year old who said they had been together for a year. Seriously??!!
then you have kids age 18, 19 or even 20 who think it is time to get married. NO!!!
yes it is OK to date, but you don't make that decision until you are settled in life, until YOU know who YOU are.
You can learn about someone in less then a year, but it takes your entire life to know yourself.
So a person you date now is someone who is different when you marry.
So this is my final thought...
take time to get to know you, date someone but don't make it all your life just yet. Finish school, go to college, see where YOUR life goes and see if your life will mesh with the others future also. If it doesn't, continue your life and until you find someone who fits in that void. Don't just try and fit a puzzle piece in a spot and smash it in till it fits. Cause all it does then is make the picture incomplete and mixed.
Same goes with kids. Wait till you are ready and not just when you think you are ready. They are two different things. So make a good example for when you do end up having them. Finish school do your life, then work on starting your children life by showing them how to do it right so they have a good life. Instead of showing them that it is OK to not go to school just because you thought you loved someone.
Now this does not go for everyone, there are few couples who are ready to marry, who are ready to have kids. And if you are then that is awesome, but just be sure you are though.
(I know this blog will upset a few people who read it. Just keep in mind that I take real life situations and tell the real life solutions. Do not take it that I am attacking any of you in particular.)
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Friday, November 5, 2010
Holidays and such
So what is this? It is the beginning of November and already Christmas decorations have been out for a month almost. Since when do people decorate for Halloween but then worry about Christmas at the same time?
Since when did Thanksgiving just become the day you have a big dinner and actually have a reason to have the entire family in one spot without TV?
It is sad when one of the most important holidays of our history just gets thrown aside as a day that is just in the way of Christmas.
It is also that all holidays have lost their meaning over time, now they are just ways to spend money on something pointless and make money for Hallmark for their cards that are overpriced. I am not saying that I don’t enjoy a present on Christmas, but do people know the true meaning of it. I am not religious in any way, but seriously it is still nice to know.
What about Easter, any other holiday?
Now Halloween has had its meaning changed up from a ‘satanic’ day to a fun day of scaring people and candy and scary movies.
It would be nice to actually know that some people out there still know the history of these days, and know what they mean.
Here is another thing that gets me… the fact that in schools, you cannot decorate anymore for Halloween or Christmas because people do not believe in it. That is great and all, but a majority of people that go there, DO. I remember being in elementary school and we could decorate our classroom for Christmas, and it was fun. When I got to high school, I had found out that they couldn’t anymore because some parents believed it was putting religion into classrooms and they didn’t believe in it.
How exactly does decorating for Christmas mean that you are religious?
Christmas isn’t even celebrated anymore to the true meaning. Now unless the teacher was putting crosses and such in the room and making the students prey, then that is different.
But seriously, parents lighten up a little. Don’t get all bet out of shape over things like that. Worry more about the school systems screwing up and losing money everyday. Or your kids taking drugs or having sex before even turning 15.
There are so many more things to worry about that actually have more meaning to them. Look outside the box a little more.
Since when did Thanksgiving just become the day you have a big dinner and actually have a reason to have the entire family in one spot without TV?
It is sad when one of the most important holidays of our history just gets thrown aside as a day that is just in the way of Christmas.
It is also that all holidays have lost their meaning over time, now they are just ways to spend money on something pointless and make money for Hallmark for their cards that are overpriced. I am not saying that I don’t enjoy a present on Christmas, but do people know the true meaning of it. I am not religious in any way, but seriously it is still nice to know.
What about Easter, any other holiday?
Now Halloween has had its meaning changed up from a ‘satanic’ day to a fun day of scaring people and candy and scary movies.
It would be nice to actually know that some people out there still know the history of these days, and know what they mean.
Here is another thing that gets me… the fact that in schools, you cannot decorate anymore for Halloween or Christmas because people do not believe in it. That is great and all, but a majority of people that go there, DO. I remember being in elementary school and we could decorate our classroom for Christmas, and it was fun. When I got to high school, I had found out that they couldn’t anymore because some parents believed it was putting religion into classrooms and they didn’t believe in it.
How exactly does decorating for Christmas mean that you are religious?
Christmas isn’t even celebrated anymore to the true meaning. Now unless the teacher was putting crosses and such in the room and making the students prey, then that is different.
But seriously, parents lighten up a little. Don’t get all bet out of shape over things like that. Worry more about the school systems screwing up and losing money everyday. Or your kids taking drugs or having sex before even turning 15.
There are so many more things to worry about that actually have more meaning to them. Look outside the box a little more.
Opinions
Here is some thing that has been urcking me a lot lately. It is people’s opinions. Now I am not saying that your opinions are worthless or that you need to shut up, cause I voice mine also, it is just when you say your opinion and you bitch slap anyone with something opposite from yours.
Let us say, for example, you are Democratic, that is great; you have opinions different from others. Do not talk about politics AT ALL unless you can listen to other people of what they have to say also. I hate when people try to have a conversation about politics but one person will be like ‘well I do not agree with that, I will not listen to this you are wrong,’ that is when I want to slap them. You just need to keep your mouth shut at all times if you can’t even talk to people and DISCUSS something.
I have been hearing people on radio, news or in person that America isn’t a great country, that they hate it. Well then fucking leave. If you think this place is so horrible and other places are better like Russia or China, then go, have fun. I will agree that we aren’t exactly the best place, but it is free, all we have to do is voice out and fix it. The problems are mostly the fact that some freedoms are slowly being taken away, almost to the point that we will have the government watching everything and in control of everything. It will be like back when Hitler controlled the media in Nazi Germany. Also, the fact that gay couples cannot get married and are still discriminated against and their lives are ruled by if a certain prop gets passed or doesn’t get passed. While there are certain aspects about America that must be fixed, it is still a great place to live, if you don’t like it, GET THE FUCK OUT!
(Pardon the language in this post, but I am only expressing myself with anger.)
Now on the lighter side, if you have an opinion about movies, back them up with something. Don’t say, oh I won’t see that – why? – cause I just wont – why? – cause… I wont – but it is great, you may like it – oh well
I hate that, either give a movie a chance and then judge it, or have a VERY good reason to it other then ‘just cause’.
So all in all, if you have an opinion, be nice about it, be respectable to others of theirs and you shall receive the same in return. So if you do not like Justin Beiber, but you have a friend that does, don’t lose a friend just cause you don’t like him, or if you don’t agree with other things.
Let us say, for example, you are Democratic, that is great; you have opinions different from others. Do not talk about politics AT ALL unless you can listen to other people of what they have to say also. I hate when people try to have a conversation about politics but one person will be like ‘well I do not agree with that, I will not listen to this you are wrong,’ that is when I want to slap them. You just need to keep your mouth shut at all times if you can’t even talk to people and DISCUSS something.
I have been hearing people on radio, news or in person that America isn’t a great country, that they hate it. Well then fucking leave. If you think this place is so horrible and other places are better like Russia or China, then go, have fun. I will agree that we aren’t exactly the best place, but it is free, all we have to do is voice out and fix it. The problems are mostly the fact that some freedoms are slowly being taken away, almost to the point that we will have the government watching everything and in control of everything. It will be like back when Hitler controlled the media in Nazi Germany. Also, the fact that gay couples cannot get married and are still discriminated against and their lives are ruled by if a certain prop gets passed or doesn’t get passed. While there are certain aspects about America that must be fixed, it is still a great place to live, if you don’t like it, GET THE FUCK OUT!
(Pardon the language in this post, but I am only expressing myself with anger.)
Now on the lighter side, if you have an opinion about movies, back them up with something. Don’t say, oh I won’t see that – why? – cause I just wont – why? – cause… I wont – but it is great, you may like it – oh well
I hate that, either give a movie a chance and then judge it, or have a VERY good reason to it other then ‘just cause’.
So all in all, if you have an opinion, be nice about it, be respectable to others of theirs and you shall receive the same in return. So if you do not like Justin Beiber, but you have a friend that does, don’t lose a friend just cause you don’t like him, or if you don’t agree with other things.
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